Has the passion and fire behind your motivation to excel (in your job/career/business/relationship) faded over the years and getting out of bed in the morning just doesn’t feel… good, anymore?
Do you ever feel like you are bound to what you have built over the last “x” years and you owe it to yourself to keep pushing? As if everything you have worked for should amount to something significant – and until you get it, you should never stop?
Do you ever think about what life would be like if you could start over again? But you’re hesitant to even consider your options because you think that all the years leading up to this moment would then be considered as a “waste of time/money/effort”?
What do you do? How do you keep moving through this clouded headspace? And how do you succeed when the love is gone?
This was ME – a year ago, feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled in my business. I spent the last 3 years working towards making it a success, dedicating every single day building the business, only to have lost the passion for it in the process, especially in the last year.
Aside from having my little girl (which changed everything for me) and feeling like I wanted to finally live my dreams (something I only came to realize in the last few months), I knew that my vision for the future took a wild turn.
How did I face the fear of letting go of something I spent so many years building?
I pressed PAUSE and took a good look at these uncomfortable feelings and GOT REAL with myself asap.
If you are struggling with feeling indifferent about your current career or business, it is imperative not to ignore these feelings.
Our feelings are an indication that there is something we need to pay close attention to.
I encourage you to dedicate a day to reflect on these feelings and ask yourself….
#1 What do you truly feel about what you’re doing?
#2 Why are you are feeling this way?
#3 If it were a perfect world – and success was in the stars for you, what would you be doing?
Think of your passion, your longing, your desire to fulfill a specific need, that hobby, that skill you have but no longer exercise, your newfound talent or creative side that you forgot you had.
#4 How would you feel if you could figure out a way to monetize that desire/longing/talent/creative path?
#5 What is stopping you from closing this chapter and moving on to the next?
#6 What are you afraid of losing?
#7 How long have you felt this way?
#8 How much longer do you want to feel this way?
#9 Are you worthy of happiness?
#10 Do you believe that your past dictates your future?
The last question is where it hit home for me. It was in this moment that I remembered my past. I remember the time that I pulled myself out of a relationship that was no longer serving me, even though I invested the last 5 years of my life with that person.
I asked myself, “what’s so different about moving on from a job/career/business that I spent 3 years building only to find myself completely uninspired, bored and out of love?”
The answer: Nothing.
Leaving that unhealthy relationship and starting from scratch was one of the best decisions I ever made. It was a brutal realization at the time, but who was I kidding? Only myself. Two years later, I met the man of my dreams and not once did I ever look back. Remembering this gave me the confidence I needed to walk away from the business I spent three years building, so that I could start pursuing my wildest Dreams.
Sometimes, we hold on to things/people/ideas/stories because we are afraid to lose our time/money/effort that we invested throughout the years. We are so focused on what we could lose, that we fail to realize what we could gain if we found it in our hearts to simply be grateful for the experience, and move on to the next.
The beautiful thing about making any drastic change in our lives is that we have the opportunity to finally design a life we truly love. If we can become clear on what that looks like and realize our greatest potential, the possibilities are truly endless. Every decision made and all the experiences we had in the past amount to this very moment, but it certainly does not define the future.
To live a life we truly love, we must find the strength and courage to consciously create the experiences that we want, moving forward, without feeling like our past is a direct reflection of our future. Holding on to anything that no longer makes us feel the way we want to feel is a detriment to our happiness.
If you are afraid to take the leap, let go, move on, or start from the bottom, let me be the one to remind you that there is a better life waiting for you on the other side. You must know that you have what it takes to rise from your past because of everything you have been through, seen, heard and experienced.
Don’t waste another day wearing a heavy heart. Take the time to answer the 10 questions above and begin to lift the weight off your shoulders. Your dreams are waiting to be uncovered – and you deserve to live them out!
In my next post, I will share How to Build Momentum Once You Decide to Start Living Your Dream Career. Be sure to get on the list here so you don’t miss it!!